How to Express Your Gratitude – Episode #73
In this episode –We will share with you how to thank all of your gift givers and also the people who have helped you along the way!
Thank you notes are the #1 way to say thanks for all the gift you receive through engagement parties, showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties and of course the wedding itself.
According to The Emily Post Institute, a thank you note is expected. They suggest setting aside a time each day to write them until finished with your list. They also say to put the gift from the person you are writing the note to in front of you to make it more personal.
- Say thank you for the gift
- Tell how you are going to use it or how much it is needed
- Personalize it
- Keep it genuine
- 3-5 sentences
- Say thanks again at the end
- Sign it personally
If you don't like the gift or are returning it, don't tell them in the thank you note, just say thank you and make it sincere.
Thank you notes need to be sent within 3 months of receiving the gift, not a year.
Here are The Emily Post's 10 do's and don't's for Thank You Notes-
- Do personalize your notes and make reference to the person as well as the gift.
- Do remember that a gift should be acknowledged with the same courtesy and generous spirit in which it was given.
- Do be enthusiastic, but don’t gush. Avoid saying a gift is the most beautiful thing you have ever seen unless you really mean it.
- Don’t send form letters or cards with printed messages and just your signature; don’t use email or post a generic thank you on your wedding web site in lieu of a personal note.
- Do promptly acknowledge the receipt of shipped gifts by sending a note right away or calling and following up with a written note in a day or two.
- Don’t mention that you plan to return a gift or that you are dissatisfied in any way.
- Don’t tailor your note to the perceived value of the gift; no one should receive a perfunctory note.
- Do refer to the way you will use a gift of money. Mentioning the amount is optional.
- Don’t include wedding photos or use photo cards if it will delay sending the note.
- Don’t use being late as an excuse not to write. Even if you are still sending notes after your first anniversary, keep writing!
Sending thank you notes for gifts is not the only thanks you should give. There are many people that helped you with your big day, it is customary to say thanks to them as well.
- Your wedding party-you can either say thanks when giving them their gift or send an additional thanks after everything has calmed down.
- Family members-Parents-that includes the new in-laws, relatives that helped
- Vendors-Vendors such as your planner, venue coordinator, photographer, caterer, florist, etc, love thank you notes, it makes them feel that the did a great job for your event.
- Party hosts-showers, engagement, bachelor, bachelorette
Another note-if you haven't sent all of your thank you notes within the 3 month time period you need to make sure you send them and add an apology to the note for the delay for sending it.
If you are wanting to thank the people for being in your wedding, you don't have to give gifts. A nice note would also do. Even a phone call or coffee date would be appreciated.
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