#46 - Social Anxiety (Phobia) and Weddings
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Episode #46 – Social Anxiety (Phobia) and Weddings
There are some of you brides out there that we know have social anxiety to some degree. While wedding planning can be a daunting task, YOU CAN DO IT! We are giving you some tools to help you plan the wedding of your dreams without freaking out and running away.
- Think Small
- Small gatherings
- Ask for help – gather your courage it can even be in email form.
- Coordinator
- Day of planner
- A great friend
- Do as much online research as you can before you start calling.
- Use your planner and framily by gathering recommendations
- Confide in you Officiant, even counseling with him/her.
- Ask your Sig Other to do all the speaking and speeches if you can't do it yourself
- Vegas!
- No details to worry about
- Add Pepto to your emergency bag
- Fear of walking and tripping:
- Wear Flats
- Have the one walking you down the aisle hold on to you to ground you.
- Keep the future marriage front and center in your mind, that's the whole purpose of this.
- Put your fears second
- If you trip or stumble your words, guess what, you are human and no one will fault you for it.
- Tell your DJ to focus on dancing and having fun and not on you.
- Seating chart, so that guests aren't seeking you out to find out where they are supposed to sit.
- Come up with a signal to your sig other so that if you feel anxious your sig other can take you aside to help calm you.
- No head or sweetheart table
- Here is some professional advice:
Professional tips from Erika Hilliard clinical social worker and author:
http://www.intimateweddings.com/blog/shy-brides-tips-for-easing-wedding-panic/ Living Fully with Shyness and Social Anxiety
Tips:
- Don't procrastinate and start early
- Get as much done as possible in your downtime
- Grounding – practice weeks to months before the wedding. Meditation, focus on the present
- As you walk down the aisle feel each footstep to bring you back to the present awareness bringing calm
- Welcome people with your eyes (avoiding eye contact creates tension)
- Don't call it a speech, and don't get hung up on perfection. Just say a few words or sentences.
Timeouts make sure to take some, not just during the wedding but during the planning too.
We would love to hear from you and to answer your questions. Please email us at [email protected] to send us your wedding planning questions.
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-Until next time, No Stress No Worries Keep Calm and Listen On-
